• Posted by Alex Sweet
  • On January 23, 2018

(How we convey ourselves and the importance of self-evaluation)

To begin, there are three different forms of communication; written, verbal and non-verbal (body language). As humans, we have the need to communicate, our directives, thoughts, opinions, emotions and so on. If one is to be understood correctly, then one would be best to leave emotion out of communication; at the very least be studious of our emotions. Understanding our own selves and becoming fully aware of them, will make things easier on others.

For instance, if I were to say to my partner “you don’t communicate”, I would be wrong. My partner does communicate, however different than myself, not unlike many individuals out there. For me, communication involves both logic and emotion; it’s important that when I communicate I have conveyed my emotions in a logical way. For example: Instead of using the blame game for a moment “you don’t communicate”, it would be better for me to logically explain that I am having difficulties understanding, due my misinterpretations of the another’s communication techniques.

When thinking of this, I realize that I may sound robotic whilst discussing, however, this is where tone really does come into play. I myself will use soft tones, gentle and understanding to convey when speaking with a child and some more dominating adults, as well as lowering my physical position to seem less threatening when discussing something delicate in conversation. Conversations can be conveyed differently from person to person. Each person takes what they desire to take from the conversation, good or bad. Would it be beneficial for humans not to speak at all to one another in the intent not to offend another or become misunderstood; I do not believe that necessary, however for some, more words may be needed and others less to put simply.

Tone displayed evenly, softly and with a smiling heart can be our greatest strength. On the other hand, tone conveyed with no enthusiasm or stiffly may seem to others as aggressive and/or dismissive. The tone is always number one, whether verbal, body language or written.

In writing, you may be better understood when not using abbreviations, such as “K”; “K” being the abbreviation for okay, “K” alone sounds dismissive, and it says “I don’t have time for this or you”. Though emoji’s can be overused, I would almost rather be bombarded with happy faces expressing joy and excitement, then no emoji at all, sometimes leaving me to figure out if another is being sarcastic, dismissive or simply disinterested/disconnected.



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